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Want To Be Like James Bond? You Can




If you’re honest with yourself, you know that you’ve wanted to be like James Bond. The guy is a legend.

007 has a thrilling career, a romantic love life, and the lifestyle of the rich and famous. “Bond, James Bond” protects the free world from evil scientists while cruising in rocket-missile capable sports cars.

You don’t just envy Bond for his fancy gadgets and hero moves (although those are sweet). You adore him because of his character traits of self-assurance, confidence, bravado, and independence. The guy can turn any situation of global chaos into control with sheer willpower.

Bond is the epitome of girls want to date him and guys want to be him. Who wouldn’t want to be like James Bond?

And where this applies to you is you can be like him. Just because James Bond is a fictional character, doesn’t mean you can’t take real principles or inspiration from him to improve your life.

You absolutely can. It goes with the philosophy whatever works, or do what you need to do.

And some days I do need to channel my inner-James Bond to step up to challenges, take risks, or live a more adventurous life.

So when you’re feeling down or want to level-up your life, look at the greatest spy in the world and his character traits below to give you a boost.

Live An Adventure

On Monday Bond is testing out new guns and gadgets at the England home base, and on Tuesday he’s in Brazil spying on international smugglers. The guy goes across the globe to eliminate evil and save the free world through one adventure to another. In each case, he’s tested mentally and physically in uncomfortable situations of life and death—but it sure is a thrill.

While Bond lives an adventure and travels for work, you’ll want to do it for pleasure. All of the benefits you gain traveling while you’re young are unreal. You can also live an adventure at home. Going outside your comfort zone to skydive, climb a mountain, or go white water rafting will make you feel alive. There’s truly nothing like living an adventurous life! Bond understands this, and that’s why MI6 can’t keep him cooped up in England.

Save Lives

Whether he’s saving the world, a lover, or himself, in every movie you’ll find him playing the hero and saving lives. I get that your life isn’t a movie and you can’t take on global terrorists. Yet you can have the same hero-like impact on the people in need through financial giving. There are charities and organizations all over the world that aim to improve or save the lives of people. When you give, your money heals the sick, feeds the hungry, or shelters the homeless. The only caveat is you must have the money to contribute to these mini-miracles, which is why saving, investing, and multiplying your money is huge.

The time to get in the know about your finances and how to make it grow is now. More money most importantly means more resources to financially help people in need. But it also means more freedom, better experiences (vacations and travel), less time being unhappy at work, and more peace of mind. Because money is so important in personal development, I spent six months writing Freedom Mindset. Read it to master your finances, get in position to help people with your money, and start imitating Bond.

Dress Your Best

You won’t find Bond wearing a shirt from high school with pit stains in it or growing a nasty neck beard. The man grooms himself and dresses like the best of them in his custom tailored suits that accentuate his muscled and toned physique. And there’s a reason behind his dedication to look good: confidence.

So, while I don’t recommend you spend a fortune buying Italian suits (that’ll ruin your bank account), your confidence will skyrocket when you take care of your appearance. Because what you wear affects how positive you feel about yourself and how you act, which creates the first impression on people you meet.

Stay groomed by showering each morning, brushing your teeth, spraying cologne or perfume, and putting on your best clothes to start the day. Have some idea of fashion sense and don’t look like you’ve been camping for a month. Regardless of your opinion, your appearance matters.

Become Extremely Fit

See that movie where James Bond ate unhealthy foods like donuts and Ho Hos and got fat sitting on the couch all weekend? I didn’t either. Otherwise, he’d surely die from jumping out of buildings and climbing onto moving helicopters. No, the man needs to stay physically ready at any time to chase down an assassin and fight in hand-to-hand combat with a guy twice his size.

You also need to prioritize your health and fitness to reach your potential each day.  So follow a regular workout routine—because you never know when you’ll need the endurance that comes from running or strength that comes from lifting weights. Eat nutritious foods that give you energy. What also matters is healthy sleep habits to assist your brain and body. Do this and you’ll gain byproducts like muscles and abs, which is part of the Bond appeal and charm.

Connect With And Charm Others

When you look past the guns and explosions, then it’s clear that Bond’s way with body language and words is his main draw. With his calculated wit and forward intentions, 007 gets the beautiful girl and pisses off his enemies all in one move. His top of the line confidence and social persuasion is unlike anyone we’ve ever seen, which makes him a must watch character. The qualities above about dressing with style and being in top shape give his influence its full effect.

I’ve written about how to connect with anyone in conversation and how to be cool. But knowledge is only part of it. What sticks with you is tons of practice trying to get someone’s number, win someone over at a party, and convincing the client to buy the upgrade service instead of the normal package. Social confidence comes from experience and putting yourself out there. Some human psychology and emotion connection wouldn’t hurt. Continue experimenting and you’ll get better, maybe as good as James himself.

Don’t Back Down From Challenges

James Bond is not the type of guy to put his head down and go home after being faced with a challenge, even if it seems insurmountable. You can have an entire army and shielded fortress, and 007 will find a way to penetrate it to kill you. He doesn’t let doubt get in his way since he’s confident in his ability.

To be like Bond, don’t back down when the challenge is tall and you’re not sure you can win. For example, stay confident when you see that hundreds of candidates have applied for the same job you covet. Look at the bright side that you know you have to prepare good interview answers and bring your A-game. There’s no other option except to prepare your hardest. Rise to your challenges in life like Bond, and you’ll become stronger as a result.

Finish Strong

Bond has been knocked out, tied down, and to the point where it seems like his defeat is but a forgone conclusion. Yet, through the struggle, he finds a way to get out of it and finish his mission. It’s like he believes he can’t fail and that’s what gives him the power to succeed. For this reasons, I admire how James Bond always finishes strong to close the deal.

What have you started that you’re thinking about giving up or you already quit? When the going gets tough is when you need to be at your best. Because finishing what you started sets the mentality that you won’t and can’t give up on what’s important to you. This attitude and some patience will propel you to greater achievements when your competition gives up. Being someone your friends, significant other, and family can count on to not give up on them is the definition of Mr. Reliable, aka Mr. Bond.

To have one last piece of fun with this, take the Buzzfeed quiz to see which Bond are you.

What’s your favorite quality of James Bond? Why do you want to be like him?



Life Tip: Never Take Anything Good For Granted



Have you ever had something really good in your life, until you took it for granted and lost it? What a horrible, miserable feeling, right? It’s the worst.

I know from experience.

My senior year of basketball still leaves a sour taste in my mouth thinking about it.

It’s strange though because it started out good, like really good.

After thousands of hours of insane dedication to practice my basketball craft and improve my shooting, dribbling, passing, defending, and rebounding, I reached a dream of mine: make the starting lineup for the St. Xavier Bombers varsity basketball team.

Not only that, my first game of the year couldn’t have been better considering I only played 14 minutes the entire game. The stat line below proves it.


And we won the game by 23 points. Everything is going smooth, until it wasn’t.

From the next game through the last game of the year it was all downhill.

Let me explain.

The Lost & Final Basketball Season

Let’s just say I was a different guy in high school. Now I’m all motivated and focused on building my businesses and leaving a legacy.

But the 18-year-old Brian was all about wreaking havoc and having a good time above all.

To express himself at school or during basketball team activities, he’d go as far as he could to toe the line of breaking the rules for pure laughs and excitement. Often he crossed the line.

Here are some of the reckless things I did during that basketball season:

  • After receiving a hard foul when driving to the basket, I stayed on the ground and racked off 5 push ups before shooting foul shots
  • On the bench during a pre-season game, I grabbed my phone and sent a tweet out to my Twitter followers explaining what I just did (tweeted during the game)
  • Ruined team pictures by putting a 3 goggles sign on my thigh, so the school had to retake them a week later
  • Stormed the refs locker room after a frustrating overtime loss when a bunch of questionable calls went against us
  • Put a teammate in a headlock during a shoot around hours before a game
  • And a lot more crazy stuff

That’s not close to all of the bad-boy moves.

I don’t know if you realize this, but it’s hard to play solid basketball and stay in the coaching staff’s good graces when you’re messing around whenever you can. It doesn’t work out well.


That’s why it’s to no shock looking back that I got suspended twice. The first time I had to sit out two quarters against our biggest rival. And then I was suspended a full week from the team later in the year.

Not to mention a bunch of other disciplinary issues and conflicts with coaches that I don’t have time nor want to discuss.

It all boils down to the fact that my antics sabotaged my final year of basketball.

After the season ended, the problem was I couldn’t go back in time to stay focused on basketball and give it my 100% again. That ship had sailed. The opportunity was gone.

So I had to, and now have to, live with regret when thinking back to that year and what could have been.

But regret about not appreciating the game of basketball isn’t the only thing I received from that experience. It’s the unforgettable lesson: never take anything good for granted.

Fortunately I learned this lesson at age 18, not 48.

Never Take It For Granted

Thanks to my failure that year, I developed a wiser perspective to appreciate the good things in my life.

So now I know never to take my work, my company, my clients, my health, my friends, my family, and life in general for granted. Regret is the worst feeling out there so I want to live in a way that eliminates it.

Where maybe if my senior year basketball season went smoother I’d never have learned the full extent of that lesson. Who knows? Maybe something far worse than a disappointing basketball season could have went down.

But because of the outcome I get to hold that experience in my back pocket going forward. I turned a scar into an advantage.

Although it’s always cool for me to flip negative experiences into positive ones, it’d be even better if I didn’t have to learn the hard way.

Truth is you don’t have to be a dummy like me.

I don’t know what your “it” is (I can guess it’s your family, friends, faith, career, pets, house, teachers, and country). I do know you need to never take it for granted if you want what’s best out of your life.

Also, don’t forget to appreciate the little things that come and go during the passing days.

It could be your peaceful commute to work where you’re alone with your thoughts. It could be the Monday morning cup of coffee you can afford without thinking about. Or it can be your place’s proximity to the beach that other people would kill to have.

Never taking life’s big and small gifts for granted is a big step to living the good life.

And there’s another reason to have this mindset: you don’t want to mess around with regret.

Regret Is Brutal, Eliminate It

Regret is the worst feeling out there in my opinion.

Sadness sucks but you can become happy again. Anger isn’t fun but you can eventually relax and get over it.

But regret, there’s no way to reverse it and recover. It sticks with you the rest of your life. That’s why it’s brutal.

Your only solution is to do your best job to eliminate it at all times by both being super grateful for what’s good in your life and staying focused to keep it going well.

If you are unappreciative and lose focus, there’s sometimes no going back from there. Your fate is often sealed once the moment ends.

I want my life to be filled with as little regret as possible. That’s part of the ingredients for a great life, in my humble opinion.

Don’t you agree? Please join me in this effort to never take anything good for granted.

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Brian, Promise You’ll Never Stop Writing



Hey guys, to celebrate video number 40 on my YouTube channel I put together a different kind of video.

Here I share a personal story and value I hold dear to my heart. It’s all about my relationship with writing and how it’s went from zero to hero in my life.

I hope you enjoy the video and feel inspired!

If you’re interested, here’s the transcript:

Let’s first take it back to high school. You sucked at writing. Just like all of your other classes, you hated it and let your teachers know by your classroom antics or naps, and doing the bare-minimum on papers.

Writing never interested you because it was a part of the school system you went to war against.

Brian this is a note to your future self.

Things changed your freshman year of college. You wanted to be a big time lawyer, and writing soon became your major since top lawyers know how to read and write well. So you needed to write, and write well, to get a top GPA and reach your dreams. And you did.

But things changed again. You said see ya to law school, hello entrepreneur land and started the blog That meant constant writing, and hours of it to publish 2-3 posts a week for the past few years. And then you became an author from your writing, already accomplishing a major achievement on your bucket list through this method of communication.

Now writing is your daily routine as much as breathing and eating is. Writing is your public and personal journal, the world sees it but you know the heart of what’s behind the words and the words unsaid. Writing is magical to you.

Although you’re a business owner, author, and coach, at the end of the day, remember your journey all started from a blog, from writing. You’re a writer, writing your story as you go, figuring it out piece by piece, and telling the world, striving to create your legacy one word at a time.

So note to future self, never stop writing. You wouldn’t be the same without it. And all great stories have a storyteller. You happen to be your own storyteller, just how you like it.

What’s your story?

What do you want to tell your future self to commit to?

What’s magical to you?

I hope by hearing part of my story you find clarity in your story. Because we’re all in this thing called life together, so let’s make the most of it.

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The Art Of Negotiation: Care Less




The art of negotiation is truly an art. Either you’re skilled enough to win, or you’ll stumble to the finish line as a loser. Those are the only two possible outcomes.

Depending on the deal, the difference in winning and losing could mean securing your dream job or entering unemployment, getting a deal or getting ripped off $10 grand, and building a million dollar business or going bankrupt.

But like many things in life—how to write a winning resume, who to marry, how to make money, how to invest—no one teaches negotiation.

Our parents: only if we’re lucky. The school system: fails at this. The government: nope.

If government and corporations had it their way, we’d never learn to negotiate so we would have to take the short stick without complaining. That’s just wrong.

Since you’re reading this article, you’re on the right path though. Because the first step is to want to know how to negotiate better.

The second step is to learn how…

“He Who Cares Less, Wins”

Emotions can often be helpful.

For example, you should feel love toward the person you’re about to marry before you go through with it. Duh!

Or you should feel sad when your parents are getting old and sick. That sadness can help you appreciate them better and prioritize quality time going forward.

But in the negotiation arena, emotions will kill you before you know it. It’ll be like a sniper with his finger on the trigger and a red dot on your chest—it’s already too late for you.

Why do emotions kill negotiation ability? It’s mainly because feelings cloud judgement.

Your brain focuses on how it’s feeling instead of reason, logic, and answering does the math work for you to go forward. Insecurities also come into play, which can make you do the opposite of what you intended.

Clouded judgement leads to rash decisions and often buyer’s remorse.

It also costs you real dollars.

This study found anxious negotiators were more likely to take deals 12% less financially attractive than their counterparts. If it’s a 12% loss off a $500,000 mortgage, we’re talking about $60,000. That’s a big deal!

But consider someone’s approach who couldn’t care less about winning the deal: They’re relaxed. They speak clearly and listen carefully. And they’re focused on the specific details of what they’re getting and giving.

Not to mention they hold the leverage because they don’t need the deal. If it helps them they’ll take it, but by no means are they getting on their hands and knees to beg for it like a dog.

It’s not hard to figure out that someone who is relaxed and focused performs better than someone who is scatterbrained and under pressure.

This explains precisely why caring less helps you win.

Plus, when you care less, you can’t lose. You either win the deal on your terms or you leave it on the table as a draw.

Caring less is precisely how you ensure you never make a bad deal that takes the shirt off your back. Those deals are the unrecoverable ones that will leave you unable to sleep at night.

Let’s check out how caring less comes to play out in day-to-day scenarios.

Real Life Negotiations

Negotiation happens everywhere, all the time.

You probably just miss it or don’t label them as deal-making.

To open your eyes and get a grip on how this goes down, read these four examples about how negotiating the right way changes the entire landscape.

1. Grad school admissions: Whether a grad school accepts you and how much money they give you comes down to 100% negotiation.

The university is negotiating to get the best students in their class (and fill the seats to make money). You’re negotiating to get into the school and make the best choice for yourself.

If you’re a top candidate with acceptances to all the elite schools, the game is on to negotiate the best offer package. You’ll want to negotiate for a fat scholarship, maybe a stipend, and see if you can get anything else (like a teaching assistant job) to entice you to come.

If you have average grades and admissions test scores, you’re playing a game of negotiating to get into better schools with no scholarship or less reputable ones with scholarship money. Use the acceptances into the better schools as leverage to get more money.

2. Buying a car: This is the classic negotiation scenario used from personal finance bloggers to authors. (Maybe because just about everyone buys a car and has room to negotiate.)

If you’re like most people, you’ll arrive at the lot and make a beeline to the car you want. Then tell the salesman, “I’ve always wanted this car. It’s perfect. How much is it?”

Their signals are telling them you’re an easy sale and to negotiate little. You cost yourself potentially thousands of dollars.

But say you come back another day after reading this article and bring a more tactical approach. Instead of making a straight shot to one car, you tell the salesman, “I don’t have any particular car in mind. I’m not sure I really need a car to be honest. Just had some free time and wanted to look around.”

You ask about a few car prices then “randomly” stumble on the one you actually want to ask the price, without being too excited (care less).

This is how the playing field gets tilted. The salesman is now the desperate one trying to both find you the right car and sell it to you.

And when you negotiate, you have to make an offer and be prepared to walk away with nothing (that’s a draw not a loss). There are plenty of stories where someone walks and the dealer calls them back the next day to drop the price to get the deal done.

This scenario works when buying a house, motorcycle, boat, and all other related-purchases.

3. Job offer and salary package: I feel strongly about this one. You have to negotiate your salary if you like yourself!

There’s free money on the other side if you do this well. That’s why I dedicated an entire section of my money book to salary negotiation, and have written about this multiple times on TYS. (See here and here.)

Let’s break it down (assuming you’ve been offered the job): The company is negotiating to get you on their team at a fair (or cheap) price, and you’re negotiating to get the job at a higher price.

Communicating you have other employment options and while you’d love to work here you know you may have to decline the deal, can often make the employer want you more. Odds are they fork over the extra money and hope you pan off as a long-term investment.

But if you don’t know how to negotiate and say, “I accept this,” the second after they tell you the salary offer, there’s no extra money for you. The reason you have less money is all your fault.

4. Business projects: Business comes down to negotiation across the board. If you’re an employee, freelancer, or small business owner, you need to know how to persuade the other side to get the deal and price you want.

Bad business negotiation means being in a place of desperation where you take contracts even if it’s 10%, 25%, or 50% your normal rate. The desperation will come through in your communication and be the reason you get taken advantage of in broad daylight.

A smart employee should recognize your company’s price is your price, and not care if you lose the deal because the person on the other side only values cheap labor, and not high quality work.

A freelancer should know the value in their work, price it accordingly, and have a take it or leave it mentality with clients. There’s always more work to be won instead of compromising your skill for cheap labor.

A business owner should double their rates to bring in more revenue (assuming they have a solid product, sales, and marketing), while not caring if they lose their smaller clients. That’s the quickest way to bring in more money, and it sure beats getting nickel and dimed on project rates.

Final Words

Everything is negotiable.

Knowing that, it’s your job to care less by having more options on the other side in case you don’t get what you want.

How do you get more options? The single best way is to work hard and provide value so you become financially well off.

Poor people are often in desperate, emergency-like situations where they can’t afford to shop around for a smart transaction. Where the rich have more time and opportunities to ensure they win the negotiation.

With wealth also comes the freedom to need less and become beholden to no one. This self-reliance empowers you at the negotiation table to only make deals if the numbers make sense to you.

You’re in a position of power when you’re finances are taken care of regardless what happens in these daily negotiations.

As you keep living, keep your eye out for negotiations big and small. Seeing them go down will give you mental reps and prepare you for your day-to-day negotiations.

Caring less about what you want, ironically gives you a better chance of getting it.

Related: Everything Is Negotiable

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