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How To Be Emotionally Intelligent With Dr. Puder

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Let me ask you this: Are you in tune with your emotional connection to others?

Odds are you struggle in this area, and you might not even have a clue what emotional intelligence means. But, you soon will.

I’m sure that most people live their entire life misunderstanding and being disconnected from the people closest to them because they lack emotional intelligence.

For example, when you don’t understand how to be emotionally intelligent, you might mistake someone’s anger for their sadness.

Would you react differently if you thought someone felt anger compared to sadness? Of course you would.

On the flip side, would they appreciate it if you understood their emotions and supported them through it? Most definitely.

But unfortunately this emotional disconnection goes on in every relationship you name across the board—friend and friend, parent and child, husband and wife, brother and sister, manager and employee—as people are having trouble relating to one another.

So what’s the big deal? Well I interviewed Dr. David Puder, the creator of the Emotion Connection app, to tell us about his app that addresses this issue and to discuss the importance of emotional intelligence. As the saying goes, there’s an app for that.

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Brian: Tell me about the Emotion Connection app?

David: I created this app so people could have concrete ways to learn how to connect with each other. I made it like a game, rather than a bunch of text to study. It is a series of videos that I recorded, then cut into clips that capture real microexpressions.

A microexpression is a mini-moment of emotion on someone’s face; it may be as small as a twitch of the eyebrows and nose, but it can tell you so much about that other person’s emotional experience.

On the app, as you study the microexpression videos, you will be prompted to choose the emotion they are displaying from a list at the bottom of the screen. If you guess wrong, you get another guess. The app will then explain to you what facial expression you are seeing, how it looks on the face, and the corresponding emotion the person is feeling. It helps you be able to read people’s facial expressions and, in a way, enter their emotional experience.

Brian: How would this help someone have success?

David: When you are able to catch brief moments of emotion, you can better understand someone else’s experience. It can even help you understand yourself and the emotions you are having in your own body.

When we are unaware of our own experiences, we can tend to be unaware of other’s moment by moment emotions as well.

When I began to study microexpressions and emotional connection, and I realized how much microexpressions and understanding them is related to empathy, and how much empathy is important to connection, I realized how crucial it is to connect with what someone is feeling to develop deeper relationships. Studying this has even helped me in my marriage, in being a good father, and in being a good doctor.

Brian: Are you not busy enough as a psychiatrist, why spend your time to develop this?

David: I am busy, but emotional connection and developing better relationships is something that is important to me both personally and professionally. I know I can only see a certain amount of therapy patients in a day, and I can only lecture to or train so many psychiatrists in a year. I wanted to develop a way that others could have access to these lessons.

Having healthy relationships helps people. People I work with as patients, and even medical students and residents that I teach in my hospital, can improve their ability to relate to one another.

Some people think connection comes down to an introvert or extrovert basis, or they experience a pattern of being socially awkward, or continually have failed relationships. People think it is an ethereal thing that they cannot learn. The app, and my upcoming website, changes that stigma.

You can actually learn the science of emotion and how it feels in you, and how it relates to other people. You can learn how to see what is going on in someone’s facial expressions and their emotions, and you can relate to them on that basis. I wanted people to know that they can and will develop deeper relationships if they take the time to study this; connection is something you can learn.

Brian: Ok, so if I play this thing, and master it, what would be the next step?

David: For the app, I used the clearest examples of facial expressions I could find in all of the video research I did for this project. The app is important, and it will help you get ready for the next level.

The next level will be joining EmotionConnection.com, the website I am developing to help people further their ability to connect through training, workbooks, video teaching and journaling. I begin with lessons on emotions and what they are, how they feel in our own bodies and their original purposes.

For example, we think of anger as a bad emotion, and when we are growing up, maybe we weren’t given a place for expressing anger in our home. But when we study anger and it’s purpose, it actually has a good purpose. The training will teach you how to identify and process anger, how to know why you are feeling it and what to do with that emotion.

Once we have worked through that in ourselves, we can then identify it more easily in others and be able to connect with them through empathy, and develop a deeper relationship with them, even through the process of understanding anger.

Brian: Let’s say I don’t want to buy the app, but just assess my abilities, where would I go to test that?

David: I have a small free quiz on Emotion Connection. It is easy to take, and it should help you be able to decide if you need the app. Most people who start with no training make around a 30%. This is shocking. It means we are missing out on plenty of information someone is sending us, which we could be using to better understand them.

Not understanding microexpressions is like only hearing about every fifth word in a conversation; it actually stunts our ability to communicate.

On the full website I will have more than 300 videos, and those videos will be much more nuanced. So think of the free quiz as the easiest option, the app as a decent training ground and way to improve the emotional identification process, and the website as the way to really understand connection and even emotional health.

Brian: Thank you so much for your time, any last thoughts on this?

David: I’m happy to answer these questions; I love helping people learn connection.

Anyone can do this. You don’t need to be a psychiatrist or someone who deals with social anxieties to need this. If you want to see better, you get glasses. If you want to lose weight, you work out. There are direct correlations between being proactive and good results. Connecting in relationships is an area you can put time in, and you can get the results you’d like to see. This app and website are for everyone and it can get you measurably healthier relationships.

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Since I know Dr. Puder and his excellent work, I bought the Emotion Connection app as soon as it went live. In my free time (which isn’t much in my daily schedule), I open the app to practice my emotional intelligence. Then I give what I learned a go as I analyze people’s facial expressions throughout my day.

And I believe that’s one of the beauties about learning this skill: I can practice looking for microexpressions everywhere I go. I practice at work, with my friends, and even as I try to solve the mystery murder in a movie.

Do I tell people when I’m analyzing their face? Not usually, but I do it nonetheless.

While some subjects you learn in school are irrelevant the rest of your life, understanding microexpressions can help you every single day. That’s true unless you plan to live on Mars by yourself, then practicing this is a complete waste of time!

On a serious note, can you afford to only scratch the surface in your relationships because you continue to misunderstand other people’s emotions?

I know I don’t want to.

How’s your emotional intelligence? How useful would it be to pick up on the microexpressions of your friends, family, and significant other? Is there anything you want to ask Dr. Puder?

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How To Plank: Why This Is My Favorite Exercise!

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Whether your motive is looking better with your shirt off, feeling more in shape, or strengthening your body, you’ll want to know how to plank.

It might change, but right now this is my favorite exercise on the planet.

Watch this short video to get a quick explanation of the plank and how to do it to perfection:

In case you didn’t watch the clip or catch the steps to do a perfect plank, here they are:

  1. Get into push-up position
  2. Bend your elbows 90 degrees and rest your body weight on your forearms
  3. Keep your upper body and lower body on a flat straight line
  4. Look at the floor and relax your head
  5. Hold this stance for as long as you can while maintaining proper form
  6. Don’t stop breathing, inhale and exhale at a slow normal rate

That’s all it takes to build your core and get stronger muscles. Isn’t the plank simple?

Plus you can plank daily to challenge your abs, where it’s not smart to do chest, biceps, or leg exercises daily. This is another W for the plank!

How often do you plank?

What’s your experience with it?

For how long can you plank without putting your butt in the air and arching your back?

Challenge yourself to start doing this weekly (it doesn’t have to be daily). Note how long you last, with good form, the first time you plank. Then take baby steps to feel the burn and go longer next time. And repeat this process.

Imagine how much progress you can make in 6, 12, and 18 months?

It’s for this reason that you better believe I’m planking tonight. Join me!

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111 Reasons To Exercise

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Not in a regular workout routine? Maybe the problem is you don’t realize the importance of physical activity. I’ll fix that with these 111 reasons to exercise.

You may not like reading this list because then you don’t have the excuse of ignorance. Sorry to bury your excuses.

After reading this it’ll just be pure laziness if you’re not exercising and pushing your body to get in shape. That’s 100% on you.

But I got faith in you. You can build this habit—slowly but surely—and become a more fit version of yourself.

Take it day by day. That’s the key. Don’t expect to lose 10 pounds in a week, then get frustrated you’re not seeing immediate progress. All good things take time.

Alright, let’s dive into every single reason to work out!

The Benefits Of Exercise

  1. Betters your quality of life
  2. Gives you more energy throughout the day
  3. Helps you fall asleep quicker at night
  4. Works to prevent the common cold
  5. Boosts productivity all day
  6. Improves your blood flow
  7. Provides endorphins to feel good
  8. Fights against depression
  9. Improves your social confidence
  10. Extends the amount of years you live
  11. Stimulates mental focus and concentration
  12. Lowers your body fat and weight
  13. Strengthens your immune system
  14. Presents opportunities to make new friends
  15. Increases testosterone
  16. Lessens risk of joint pain
  17. Tones and strengthens your skin
  18. Enhances your endurance
  19. Protects you against heart disease
  20. Lowers risk of some cancers
  21. Convinces you you’re stronger than you think
  22. Fights against dementia
  23. Motivates you to eat healthier
  24. Burns extra calories
  25. Provides a creative outlet
  26. Helps you feel sexier
  27. Drives more romance in your relationship
  28. Lowers cholesterol in a natural way
  29. Makes your dog healthier and happier with more walks
  30. Decreases your resting heart rate
  31. Instills discipline and self-control
  32. Teaches your kids to exercise
  33. Increases your work performance
  34. Adds a challenge to your day
  35. Strengthens your bones
  36. Develops your athletic ability
  37. Pushes you to take more risks
  38. Digests your food better
  39. Lowers risk of diabetes
  40. Lowers triglycerides
  41. Aids your immune system fighting infections
  42. Improves emotional stability
  43. Gives you a positive goal to attach your energy to
  44. Alleviates constipation
  45. Stimulates pain-releasing hormones
  46. Improves oxygen movement to the body
  47. Lowers the risk of osteoporosis
  48. Speeds up your metabolism
  49. Helps remove lactic acid in the body
  50. Develops a mindset of self improvement
  51. Straightens up your posture
  52. Provides a healthy habit to exercise more
  53. Develops flexibility and range of motion
  54. Makes it easier to fit into different types of clothes
  55. Gives you a social setting to meet like-minded people
  56. Helps you think positive
  57. Saves you doctor bills down the road
  58. Increases creativity
  59. Allows you to eat unhealthy without getting fat
  60. Makes you drink more water
  61. Protects your eyes and eyesight
  62. Creates a mentality of respecting your body
  63. Builds muscle tone
  64. Provides opportunities to test your willpower
  65. Fights against allergies
  66. Makes you look younger than you are
  67. Prepares you for change
  68. Increases fertility for making babies
  69. Improves body control
  70. Allows your brain to think more clearly
  71. Helps your body store glycogen
  72. Boosts your body’s production of good fat
  73. Gets you comfortable handling pressure
  74. Decreases appetite for sugary drinks and unhealthy food
  75. Adds muscle strength
  76. Makes you feel hungrier after a good workout
  77. Takes away guilt when you do relax
  78. Increases the odds you make more money
  79. Reduces blood pressure
  80. Teaches you a lesson in patience to see body progress
  81. Alleviates back pain
  82. Readies you for any reunion, wedding, or social gathering
  83. Improves breathing ability
  84. Gives you a chance at a six pack
  85. Instills belief that you can achieve your goals and follow through
  86. Eases menstrual cramps
  87. Gets you ready to run a marathon
  88. Improves your business network and connections
  89. Provides an excuse to wear and buy new exercise clothes
  90. Improves reaction time
  91. Presents opportunities to find new business ideas
  92. Makes for a free social activity
  93. Reduces stress and anxiety
  94. Fights against feelings of boredom
  95. Protects against age-related muscle loss
  96. Gives you a pretty mirror view
  97. Raises your sexual performance
  98. Allows you to eat more food
  99. Makes you a more interesting person
  100. Prepares you to always look good in swimsuits
  101. Builds muscle size
  102. Adds a glow to your skin complexion
  103. Teaches you the value of hard work
  104. Gives you a reason to manage your time better
  105. Protects your body against injury
  106. Decreases the difficulty of lifting heavy objects
  107. Encourages the people around you to exercise
  108. Adds to your first impression
  109. Lowers the scary thought of stepping on a scale
  110. Increases compliments you receive from other people
  111. Gives your body what it loves, a good workout

If those 111 arguments didn’t convince you to take your health serious and begin a consistent exercise plan, I give up. You may be hopeless.

Just kidding. I know that’s not true. Even the most overweight, out-of-shape person can make a turn for the better to prioritize exercise.

And I know after reading this some of you will think, “Exercise is awesome. I’m going to get shredded for the beach this summer.” But then you’ll continue to not work out like nothing changed.

There’s only one road to getting in better shape, and it requires a bunch of sweat.

So snap out of it.  Start exercising like you know you should. Get committed.

You owe it to your mind and body at the very least. Otherwise you’ll steal those 111 reasons from yourself.

And as I wrote in this article, the best time to start is now.

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Interview: Dr. Littleton, “America’s Energy Doctor” Seen On Dr. Oz

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Today I have a special interview for you with a great new friend, Dr. Jason Littleton.

He’s a doctor, CEO, author, speaker, columnist, and so much more. Mainly he’s known as “America’s Energy Doctor,” and has been on The Dr. Oz Show—that’s big time.

What I appreciate about Dr. Littleton is he’s one of those guys who benefits everyone around him, making it look effortless. All you have to do is listen, and you’re going to walk away with some new wisdom or inspiration.

You’ll see what I mean in this interview.

Check it out below, and don’t forget to keep reading after the interview to see my key insights.

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Brian: You’re super successful now. But it wasn’t always easy. Tell us about your difficult trial during the MCAT and how you got through it to become Dr. Littleton.

Dr. Jason: In a nutshell, I was on a journey to become a doctor. And one of the roadblocks that came up was when I walked out of the MCAT exam.

One of the things I realized is that when you’re going for anything, you’re going to realize what you do and don’t know about yourself that you need to change. You do this so you can become a better version of yourself.

In my case, studying for the MCAT was a whole lot different from studying in high school. In high school, you read a textbook and remember what you need for the test. Even in college, you’re learning things and you mainly memorize information to get to the next level.

But for the MCAT, there’s information there that you have to not just memorize, but retain for your future success as a medical student and as a physician.

One of the things I learned about myself is that I needed to retrain how I learned information. I needed to retrain how I studied and how I focused, so I could be better prepared when I went into that next MCAT exam.

Here’s the deal when you take a big exam like that. Sometimes there’s pressure to succeed. And I didn’t fully understand that pressure as well as I maybe should have understood.

So through self-reflection, understanding the things I did wrong, and staying motivated, I was able to go back and do the test again, and succeed. That was a difficult time that I overcame. But I never lost focus that I would be a successful doctor.

Brian: What are your overall thoughts on failure? Is failure permanent?

Dr. Jason: It’s both. Failure is a temporary thing for people who see the light at the end of the tunnel, when there’s no light. You have to have a vision for yourself. You have to be able to see it when no one else can see it. And when things in the natural don’t look like they’re going well, you still have to have a mental picture of where you’re going and that you can still get there.

For people who can do that, and everyone can do that, so for those willing to do that then failure is temporary.

For people who are not willing to see the greatness inside of them and are not willing to face difficult times and get through them, failure is permanent. Because these are the types of people who will quit, not continue on, not fight the obstacles, or embarrassment. Because sometimes people feel embarrassed when they fail.

So if you can get past the pride and the embarrassment, to see that mental picture of you on the other side, failure is temporary.

Brian: I know that you’re an energy expert. So what are three changes we can make in our lives to gain more energy throughout the day?

Dr. Jason: First, you should always start with breakfast. A lot of people skip that, but here’s the deal: Carbs are our fuel. That’s like our gasoline. So when we eat breakfast, we’re getting the carbs we need to fill our body with energy.

People shouldn’t ever avoid carbs. That’s like not putting gas in your car. You want to have elite carbs though, such as vegetables and fruit.

The other thing people should do is have snacks throughout the day. I always tell people to have six meals a day—breakfast, lunch, and dinner with three snacks in between. When you do that, you stay energized as you go through the day.

Next thing, people should avoid drinking caffeinated drinks. Sometimes people make a habit out of that and they use caffeinated drinks for energy. But they continue that until it’s something they rely on to feel energized.

But that’s not what you need. It hurts your health. It doesn’t make you feel as energized as you actually think. It’s a lot of commercialism.

So those three things, just from a natural aspect of diet and nutrition, will give you more energy.

And here’s one bonus from a mental perspective. People have to plan to go beyond where they think their end point is. For example, if people think at 5 PM their day ends because they got off work and they’re not prepared to go beyond that, their internal mental clock says we’re done working and let’s shut it down.

But I tell people to keep the throttle going. Don’t go home at 5, sit on the couch, and turn things off. Because when you do that, you get tired, it’s hard to start again, it’s hard to work at home, and it’s hard to be an entrepreneur outside of your job.

So I tell people to plan to work to at least 10 PM. When you do that, mentally you’re prepared to go longer than you originally thought was your end point. That’s how you can also have more energy and spring to your step during the day.

Brian: From your experience as a doctor, what’s one of the biggest misconceptions an average person has about living a healthy life?

Dr. Jason: I don’t want to lose anyone here, but sometimes people think that they have to work out to an extreme extent so that they feel like they’re in the best shape of their lives.

But I argue that how many football players and athletes live beyond 70? These are people who work out to an extreme extent to become real muscle-bound. And sometimes that extreme working out causes added stress on the body and inflammation that actually doesn’t cause us to have longevity.

Some of people who have been interviewed who lived to their 100s said the secret to longevity is moderation in exercise and diet. Some of the extremes in terms of fitness won’t take you to longevity.

I’m not saying don’t lift weights, don’t go running, don’t work out. I’m saying do it in moderation, don’t do it to an extreme.

Sometimes people will do it to an extent where they don’t feel good about themselves until they’re beating their body to the extreme. When you do that, it damages your health.

Brian: Walk us through how you got featured on Dr. Oz and what that experience was like on national TV?

Dr. Jason: First of all, I have a business coach, Dr. Stacia Pierce, who is world-renowned business coach who has helped me get engaged with people like a Dr. Oz and a Dr. Nandi.

Having a coach is paramount because you need someone, as an entrepreneur, that will push you beyond what you think you can do. I wouldn’t be where I am without my coach.

She pushed me to write my first book WellSpring: The Energy Secrets TO DO The Good Life. As I started marketing myself, people got wind of what I was doing.

And one day I received an email from the social producer from The Dr. Oz Show, asking me to talk about Dr. Oz’s magnesium grocery list and how I used it with my patients.

Of course I accepted that opportunity.

Brian: What’s your favorite book, fiction or nonfiction, and why?

Dr. Jason: One of my all time favorite books is Your Best Life Now by Pastor Joel Osteen. It’s a great book about making positive affirmations, believing in the favor of God, and really walking your faith out to be your best.

I think it’s a great book because when I read that it helped me through my journey of success as a physician.

There’s another book that’s really dear to my heart. It’s by Dr. James Pierce and it’s called The Success Secrets of Excellence. And it’s about how to be excellent in life, in your job, in your business, being on time for appointments, and how you look excellent because people treat you how you look.

Those two books, and my business coach Stacia Pierce, have made me the person I am today.

Brian: What’s your life mission?

Dr. Jason: My life mission is to help people find their passion and to use that so that they can live as healthy as possible, so that they can buy more time on this earth, and so they can carry it out.

Helping people do that enriches the world. Helping people live longer and be energized to do what they’re passionate about is a huge part of my purpose.

Brian: Where can Take Your Success readers go to learn more about you and your work?

Dr. Jason: People can go to my website: www.jasonmd.com. There they can find links to my Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter profiles.

And on my website they’ll be able to get to every social media site, book, and resource that I have.

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What I learned is that Dr. Littleton has a clear vision for the world, his patients, and his life. That’s to live with passion.

And his passion empowers him to do his best work, regardless of the arena.

His passion to be a doctor carried him through his difficult time with the MCAT. His passion to help others live with energy improves the lives of his patients and the people around them. And his passion for entrepreneurship pushes him to continual business success.

I’m totally with him. There’s a 180 degree difference between someone who is pursuing their passion and someone who isn’t. You can see it in their day-to-day life, their mood, and often their eyes.

So I, and I know Dr. Littleton agrees, challenge you to find your passion. It’s the best thing for the people around you and you.

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