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What Do Successful People Do?

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Do you ever wonder what successful people spend their time doing?

Have you ever been so jealous of someone’s success that the only thing you can do to make yourself feel better is to make fun of them? I know I used to do that.

Plenty of times I’d be outwardly ripping some successful person and their ambitions with my friends. Funny thing is, they were out living their dream and I was on the couch just running my mouth.

But if I was being honest, I secretly wished I had the same drive as them. I wished my life had more purpose. I wished I was a successful as the businessman, actor, singer, athlete, or random individual who got my verbal beating that day.

I used to be a hater from afar in high school and my freshman year of college. Then I decided that I wanted to be successful and provide value to people. Now, I get hate from other people and it’s all cool.

What about you? Can you relate to my former self that only criticized others making their dreams happen while I wasn’t? If that rings true to you, why don’t you stop criticizing and start doing what successful people do? Have you thought about that?

It takes nothing to criticize people. You have no skin in the game. But that also means you don’t get any reward or satisfaction. Again, because you have no skin in the game.

When you do what successful people do, you eventually achieve success and satisfaction—imagine that!

So here’s a checklist of what successful people spend their time on. Do what you want with it.

What Successful People Do

1. They have a vision.

Top performers have a long-term vision for their future. And then they relentlessly work toward that future. Their vision carries them in times of struggle. And it guides them on whether to say yes or no to opportunities.

On the other hand, many less successful people go by the philosophy you only live once (YOLO) and focus solely on getting the most fun out of the day. This YOLO mindset of fun over work will shortchange dreams and satisfying futures.

And don’t get me wrong because I’m all for making the most out of the day, see point #2. However, trying to get the most pleasure out of the day and working toward a greater future are two completely different ideas.

2. They get the most out of every minute.

I’m sure you’ve heard that time is the most valuable resource, yet do you live that way? Successful people do live that way. They don’t waste unnecessary time as they value each minute of the day to complete their daily goals.

What about you? Have you ever found yourself with 15 extra minutes to do something (because a meeting got cancelled, or whatever) but you sat at your desk and did nothing? It’s probably because you look at time in chunks of 60 minutes and 30 minutes, not individual minutes. You’ll improve your productivity when you begin to value each minute of the day: all 1,440 of them.

3. They have a positive attitude.

Understand this: Thoughts influence actions, actions influence success, therefore thoughts influence success. Got it? Having a positive attitude is what’s required to do your best work. Plus, other people enjoy the company of a positive person, so making connections is easier when your positivity is overflowing.

It’s hard to be successful if you consistently think negative. And you limit your ability to create change when you stay frustrated over your inability to change the world’s problems. If you find yourself often on the negative side, you would benefit from taking the 7-day positive challenge.

4. They read to continue learning.

I’m not going to go too far describing this one because I’ve previously written passionate pitches encouraging reading: Are You Reading Enough Books To Be Successful? and Book Reading Challenge: 4 Books In March. If you want to rapidly gain wisdom, use the mistakes of others, and improve your communication then reading is crucial. Plus, this George R.R. Martin quote highlights the power of reading, “A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies… The man who never reads lives only one.”

An unsuccessful person has the mindset that they know it all. So the average person would spend their free time watching television instead of reading. Watching television is turning your brain off. Reading is empowering your brain to grow.

5. They talk about ideas.

Talking about ideas is inherently positive and enlightening. Whether it’s new business opportunities, the future, or solutions to your problems, ideas are a breath of fresh air. That’s why top performers talk about ideas—and sometimes these ideas turn into a breakthrough.

While wise people are sharing ideas, the majority of people enjoy gossiping because it temporarily makes them feel better to put someone else down. That’s not all it does though. It creates a negative mentality, leads to awkward situations, and breaks trust and relationships. There’s no use for it, so don’t waste your breath gossiping.

6. They fully recharge.

You won’t find a lot of successful people who are out of shape. To perform at your best, your body has to have the energy you need. The best at what they do work out often and eat healthy. Oh yeah, they also sleep around eight hours a night.

Contrary to popular opinion, successful people don’t get two hours of sleep before they’re up and at it the next day kicking butt. See what Arianna Huffington had to say about a great night’s sleep.

7. They live by routines.

Zuckerberg wears the same shirt every day. And President Obama only wears two types of suits. Why? Because having a routine gives them more willpower for their work, which happens to affect billions of people. For another example, Warren Buffett got in the routine of spending 80% of his work day reading financial documents, which has worked out for his bank account.

To compare, unproductive people waste time deciding their plan of action. They go back and forth deciding what to start first, and waste time on what they’re going to eat or wear. A lack of routine usually points to disorganization, too.

8. They’re a team player.

People who accomplish a lot are extremely complimentary of others because they have an abundance mindset. They know there’s enough success and money to go around for everyone. This allows them to support others and be grateful for the people and family around them. Then when they need it, other team players are ready to support them.

Unsuccessful people have a scarcity mindset, meaning they see other people’s success as less for them. That’s just how they operate. Little do they know that they’ll win more when they support others and help them succeed.

9. They bounce back from failure.

Edison failed his entire life, totaling 10,000 plus failures. Yet those failures helped him become arguably the world’s greatest inventor. Edison shows that the more you fail, the more you’ll understand that success and failure go hand in hand.

If you don’t have the right mindset towards failure, it can crush your spirit and cause you to give up. And quitting is the only way you truly fail. Otherwise, failure is just a lesson that you can use in your next attempt at success.

10. They are patient.

Big things take time to come together. Top performers realize this, yet they don’t just sit around and wait. They stay patient while working hard, remaining focused, and growing personally. For a great example, check out this success story of Harland Sanders, KFC’s founder.

An underachiever tolerates so little patience that once something doesn’t happen as quick as they want, they stop working for it. Don’t be that guy or girl. You could be one day away from making a huge accomplishment. So stay patient.

Final Words

Are you afraid of success? If you are, you’re not alone because many people are. They fear everything will be different and they won’t be able to handle their new reality. They will be alone and have no one they can trust.

But there’s nothing to fear. Your true family and friends will still love you, and keep you humble, if you go on to be super successful.

So I encourage you to put your skin in the game and aim to be successful in your career through the outline of what successful people do above.

Jim Rohn caps it off best, “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.”

Related: 11 Words Successful People Don’t Say

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Telling Yourself ‘My Life Sucks’? Try Again

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If you catch yourself saying, “You know what, my life really sucks right now,” odds are you’re delusional. Life is the greatest gift you’ll ever be given—even with its downsides.

Though I’ll admit there have been times in my life where I could relate to that negative attitude because, as much as I wish I was, I’m not always grateful.

For example, I specifically remember being suspended for a week during my senior year of high school basketball.

It was a little embarrassing. I didn’t get to see my friends on the team at practice or go to any team activities. I wasn’t able to play in games on a team I worked so hard to make. And the suspension relegated me from the starting lineup to the bottom of the roster when I came back—I had to earned the coach’s trust again, so he said.

That felt like the end of the world to an 18-year-old kid. I definitely said, “My life sucks,” a few times during that leave from the team.

When in reality, my actions didn’t make me an angel on that team. My reckless behavior got the best of me with the coaches and contributed to my sucky situation.

Plus, I had no clue how good I had it if getting suspended from a basketball team was the worst thing that happened. Other people my age were struggling with homelessness, hunger, and abuse. Apparently I thought the sun revolved around me.

The takeaway here is life didn’t suck during my basketball crisis, my actions leading up to that suspension and my mindset during the experience were the problems.

If I fixed either of those, I wouldn’t have gotten suspended for one, and I would have saved a ton of wasted energy and stress.

Whatever Sucks, You Can Change It

If you were hoping to get some sympathy here—I’m sorry but this is not the blog for you.

Because even if life is supposed to be fair—it’s not—how does complaining about something make it any better? How does that help you recover and move forward?

Exactly, it doesn’t.

Whatever is currently the part of your life that sucks, you can do two things: change your actions and/or have a better attitude.

If your job sucks

Dislike your job? Put in the work to go on a job search to land a better position that’s more aligned with your passion, pays more, or is closer to home. If you’re not qualified or don’t have the experience, bust your butt to improve. For those who stay at a job they hate for an extended amount of time, you have no one to blame but yourself.

An attitude switch would look like self-talk saying, “I know this job isn’t my favorite, but think about the experience and connections I’m getting. Or at least I can pay my bills because of it—some people would gladly switch places with me.” Finding a little good, even if it’s not a dream job, is the goal.

If your social life sucks

Anyone who doesn’t have as many friends and weekend invites as they want is simply not making enough effort. You need to introduce yourself to more strangers and reconnect with old friends. When you increase those introductions, you’ll find things in common and boom—friendship. Or just get a dog and you’ll have a new best friend right then and there. The only one impeding your social life is you.

You can also flip your mindset. I, for one, value quality of friends over quantity of friends. That’s one way to look at it. And the less friends you have can is sometimes good since you won’t be dragged to as many events you’re not interested in. Always consider the positives of a situation.

If your money situation sucks

Getting your money right comes down to thousands of small decisions that add up. If you’re in a bad place financially, I’m willing to bet you’re not saving enough, paying down debt, and investing extra money left over. It all comes down to your daily money decisions. Besides saving more, you need to seriously start reading about personal finance. Knowledge is not only power, it’s wealth.

If you have a bed to sleep on, food to eat, and clothes to warm yourself every single day, just remember that millions of people across the world are worse off than you. Consider people in rural Africa, Asia, and India, or the homeless in your city, to stop feeling sorry for yourself. And watch this video to feel rich when you’re broke.

If your romantic life sucks

Look at your actions first. Try meeting guys/girls at different locations than you usually do if you’re striking out. Ask one of the friends you trust to set you up. Experiment dating a guy/girl who isn’t normally your type. The key is different activity to get a different and better result: a parter you trust and love.

As for mindset, it’s key to understand the goal shouldn’t be to date for the heck of it, but to understand yourself and date the right person who makes you happy. Realize also that there isn’t just one guy or girl out there for you—but thousands of people find you interesting. Be confident in who you are and have faith you’ll meet the right person.

If your living location sucks

Like I’ve heard the saying before, “You’re not a tree, you can move anytime.” There are plenty of ways to improve your location. Go on a job search for a position in your favorite city. Save up money to make the big move if that’s the problem. Or stay put and travel more often to limit the amount of weekends you spend at home.

Maybe it’s best to stay put and change your attitude. Consider the idea that living at home, or in some particular city, is the best financial move in this season of your life. Think about how this process of building up your financial resources, before you can move to your favorite city, is teaching you patience.

If your family sucks

Finding it tough to build a closer relationship with your parents or siblings? Maybe it’s you. Try giving them the most kindness and patience you can muster. At least you’ll feel good knowing you made a serious effort to love on them better. And when you have your own family you can fill it with so much love that your kid always feels known and cared for.

As for attitude, you need to realize that you don’t get to pick your family. But be thankful your dad and mom conceived you, at the very least, you know? Without them, there’s no you. So they must have done something right.

If your physical body sucks

These actions are obvious. Start eating for energy and hit the gym if you’re tired of looking like a noodle or a slob. No one can improve your body fat except you. Plus, start getting enough sleep and living a healthy life in all aspects to train your mind and body to be discipline around temptation. That’s how you improve your physical appearance.

Mentally, whose body are you comparing yours to? Does your body actually suck? Or is it not perfect according to the media’s impossible standards? Maybe your body is good you just think it’s bad for the wrong reasons.

I hope in each case you saw how life doesn’t suck. You can change it through actions and attitude.

Make The Most Of The Present, You Only Got One Life

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“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

It’s insanity to worry about the past and unhelpful to get carried away by future anxiety that may never happen.

You’ll be healthier and happier when you focus on doing your best this very moment.

What’s crazy about this world is that the treasure—each moment—is hidden in plain sight. It’s right in front of us every day, just few of us notice.

It’s the air we breathe through our lungs, the ability to open our eyes and see, and the touch when hugging a loved one. Over time we take them for granted when we’d be best off cherishing the special moments of each day.

I’m making a more conscious effort to make the most of my one life, are you going to join me?

And before you click away, skim these two blog posts for a few tips on how to do that:

If you take those two challenges seriously and actually do them, they can change your entire perspective on life.

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18 Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me When I Was 18

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You ever want to go back in time? I do, and if I could, I’d tell myself 18 things that would have helped me live a more peaceful and happier life.

The discomforting issue is I’m certain the people around me, definitely my parents, already told my teenager self most of these lessons. But I didn’t listen.

I guess it’s true that some things you just need to learn for yourself.

Anyway, now I’m 24 years old and 6 years removed from my cocky, anti-establishment attitude that got me in a world of trouble, such as: getting detentions every other day in high school, getting suspended twice from the varsity basketball team, and getting two misdemeanors for disrupting the peace.

I’m wiser from these mistakes and on a mission to save a kid like myself from the hard-hitting consequences of being young and reckless.

Please be aware I don’t claim to know it at all, hardly the opposite. Though I’ve learned some valuable lessons and if it helps 18 year olds or anyone of any age out there live better, I did my job.

These are the 18 things I wish I would have known as a young guy who thought he know it all but didn’t know anything.

1. Make mistakes, not permanent damage to your future.

Like Frankie Ballard’s country song goes, “How am I ever gonna get to be old and wise. If I ain’t ever young and crazy?”

You can be crazy as long as you’re not idiotic and ruin your future with a bad decision you can’t ever get back. Got it?

There’s a big difference between a mistake and irreconcilable damage. One brings positive fruits like experience, wisdom, and knowledge, the other toils bad fruits like stress, loss of future opportunities, and a ruined reputation.

Getting in a minor car accident, breaking team rules, and missing your shift of work are all mistakes.

Drinking and driving, cyberbullying, and sexual assault, are all risks of permanent damage to your future.

Have fun. But be smart in the process.

2. Not every authority figure is right but not all are wrong, listen to the wise.

I got the first half of this part right, but I applied it across the board to every authority figure. If you were my teacher, principal, coach, friend’s parent, it was basically game over for me listening to you.

My mentality was whoever tries to put limits on me is only getting in the way of my fun. There’s no way I’m listening to those old farts.

Little did I know at the time that wisdom does come with age and not every authority figure should be ignored.

Looking back, my mom spoke the truth in so many areas when it came to spiritual, relationship, and family topics. I just didn’t internalize it until I had to learn the hard way for myself.

If you’re already an angel at 18 ignore this one. But if you’re a bad kid like me then the truth is not everyone is out to get you. Listen to the good ones.

3. You’re not your stuff, find meaning in who you are.

The media and big corporations will do everything they can to convince you confidence comes from the things you own, not who you are.

That’s a lie. Please resist the urge to put your value in your things.

For one, there’s always going to be someone who has more than you and it’s a tireless game where you end up short in the long run any way you play.

Two, you’re an amazing, unique individual that has incredible talents to offer the world. Though you only get in your own way if you put the focus on your stuff and not your innate gifts.

Love yourself. Learn about what makes you special. And most importantly, put meaning in who you are now and the person you want to grow into as you mature in age.

Putting your identity in material items leads to emptiness, where finding the best version of you leads to fulfillment.

4. Relax, hard things always pass over time.

As a youngster it’s easy to get carried away by an unfortunate circumstance. The dramatic part of your brain will think this negative situation is permanent, impossible to solve.

Truth disagrees. It’ll tell you that time is always moving forward. So your worst days are only 24 hours. Your worst weeks are only 7 days. And your worst years are only 365 days. Then you get to start fresh.

If you’re having a hard time getting the attention of someone you like, feeling homesick at college, or failing to get the jobs you worked hard for, relax and remember all difficult moments will pass.

Hang in there and don’t ever give up on life. The good news is strength comes from overcoming the struggles life throws at you.

5. Your body is not invincible, so don’t act like it.

As a high schooler I’d do ridiculous things with my body that were both out of control and deserved far worse than what actually happened. Reason being is I thought I was invincible.

For example, I’d get into road rage with fellow drivers and throw water bottles back and forth at each other while going 80 MPH on the highway. I’d get into physical altercations with friends far bigger than me where I wasn’t going to win no matter what I did. And I’d go days without sleeping on the weekend just for the heck of it, only to fall asleep behind the wheel in the middle of the night.

Did anything send me to emergency room or the grave? No, but I every easily could have lost a limb or my life by acting this way.

Don’t put yourself in excessive danger when it comes to your freedom or ability to live, it’s plain and simple not worth it.

6. You can really do whatever you set your mind to.

There are going to be external and internal naysayers all around telling you why you can’t do something. But they’re all wrong if you set your mind on doing it.

I had teachers in high school say I’d never amount to more than a prison inmate, along with our negative forecasts on my life. But I used that as motivation and proved them wrong to put together one of the best college careers they’ve ever seen.

And if brilliant people can make incorrect predictions about the future like the ones in that article, so can your parents, teachers, and the doubtful part of you about your life.

Do you want to walk on a college Division 1 football team with the goal of playing? What about reaching 1 million YouTube subscribers? Or what about making a full-time living from your Instagram profile? Truly nothing is impossible, especially with the internet these days.

Follow the process, keep the faith, and trust that you can achieve what you set out to—no matter how long it takes.

7. School is a game, learn how to master it and you’ll always win.

I struggled to get by in high school but graduated summa cum laude at the top of my class in college. What was the difference?

Everything changed the moment I figured out that school is all a game to be won or lost. Once you master the game, classes don’t change for the most part so you can repeat what you learned and come out on top in every college class going forward.

The entire process of taking notes, writing papers, building relationships with teachers, and studying for tests has rules and ways to score points if you know what you’re doing. No class is scary after you see the light.

This is a shameless plug because I’m confident in the material: Order my book How To College to learn how to game the school system and come out on top.

8. Find work you’re on fire about.

The average person spends 45 hours a week at a job they honestly only show up for because they need the paycheck. That’s miserable to trade time for money every working day of your life.

Screw the idea that you should do what your parent’s think you should. Don’t listen to the people-pleaser part of you who considers choosing a career to impress other people. And forget about picking a job for the money.

It sounds weird since this word is almost always used in a negative connotation, but be selfish about the career you pick. Find work you get fired up just thinking about and are filled with passion when you do it.

When (the keyword is “when) you pull this mission off, you’ll get the ultimate reward of doing what you love every single work day. You can’t top that!

9. Friends come and go, but family is forever.

Look, you’re 18 and are convinced you’re too cool for school. I get it. I was there.

The reality is you wouldn’t be much without your parent’s, their love, and their financial support.

So when you’re off at college, give your mom and dad a call every week. Take them out to dinner when you go home for some quality time.

Also, make an intentional effort to hang out with your siblings.

These are the people who have your back through thick and thin, so don’t ignore them when life’s good. It might be weird at first, but eventually you’ll cherish the time together because when you get older life gets busy and there’s less time to go around.

10. Treat people with kindness, everyone has their own problems.

You know a perfect person out there? There’s no such thing. Everyone is battling with a big or little issue in their walk of life—especially at 18 years old.

The prettiest girl in school might be severely depressed. The best athlete in the school might get physically abused at home by his dad. Or the kid with the perfect GPA has to perform under intense pressure to get an ounce of affection from his parents.

Not to mention the pain you can’t possible imagine that causes self-harm, eating disorders, or suicidal thoughts in your peers’ private hours.

There’s not a single person without dysfunction in their life. It’s a broken world.

Please don’t add to their problems. Instead, make their life easier with a kind act or words of encouragement.

They’ll feel loved and you’ll feel better about yourself in the process.

You can’t make the entire world a better place on your own, but you can improve the lives of those around you one by one.

11. Make the most out of your money even when you don’t have much.

In high school and even college my stupid mindset was, “Why make smart money decisions now, it’s not like I have much money anyway.” My friends held the same viewpoints as I, too.

What I missed out on is getting a head start with my money.

When my summer job and graduation money went towards Lacoste button downs, Ray-Ban sunglasses, and Jordans, it could have bought stock shares of Netflix, Amazon, and Facebook.

Those growth stocks with a mix of compound interest would have made me significantly richer. At the very least I could have saved it to pay down college debt or hold onto for a more forward-thinking purchase.

The lesson here is what financially doesn’t look like much as a teenager, can become the booster shot to a future of financial freedom you can’t even dream about at your young age.

Why wait to make solid decisions, you know?

12. Growth is 100% possible and comes from where you focus your energy.

Hey kid, you can grow in any direction you choose to. As a plant can grow wide or tall, you can in any quality of your life.

Want to be funnier, better at piano, more muscular, fitter, smarter, more energetic, better dressed, or any possible quality you can think of? Focus on it and progress is guaranteed to come.

The point is you’re not limited or stagnant in the person you are right now. You can develop in any area you choose. Take courage in the fact that you’re not stagnant.

It’s truly a human miracle that we can choose to grow in an area and actually make it happen.

13. Invest time to your mind, body, and spirit—you only get one of each.

It’s easy to only think as far as the weekend when you’re young. What’s better for you to realize is that life’s long and you only get one mind, body, spirit. Treat them right.

Just cause you don’t have an assigned book to read doesn’t mean you should never pick up a book again. The benefits of reading are second to none. Not to mention the moment you stop learning is when you stop living.

Just cause you’re done playing sports doesn’t mean you’re done working out the rest of the year, in college, and going forward. You can directly help your brain chemistry feel happier thoughts by working out.

Just cause you don’t have to go to church anymore since you’re in college, doesn’t mean it’s in your best interest to be spiritually bankrupt. Think about who is your creator and why did he create you?

Plus, the single best way to combat all the crap that life throws at you is to be mentally, physically, and spiritually strong. What isn’t a weakness internally, can’t be exploited externally.

14. Go work hard, and you won’t face regrets from things you could’ve controlled.

The luxurious life of relaxation as an 18-year-old with limited responsibilities is nice, until it catches up on you in the form of bad habits.

The college freshman who comes home from class and abuses their freedom by taking a three-hour nap every day is the same one frustrated about why they’re struggling to pass their classes. They regret not putting more time into studying.

That’s not it. They build the habit of needing a nap after any mental work so they come home from their first real world job at 22 and nap, but make no progress on their fitness goals. They regret not going to the gym more often.

Regret comes from knowing you could have done more but you didn’t put in the effort for some reason. I’m telling you the way to cut down on regret is to work extremely hard in all facets of life.

It’s much easier to dismiss things out of your control. But if your laziness contributed to a bad result, all the blame is on your shoulders. Why do that to yourself?

15. Your big ideas aren’t crazy, they’re creative.

The world is full of Negative Nancy’s who try to put your ideas down by calling you crazy.

What you need to learn is that only small people, or insecure friends, who are afraid of change will knock you for being creative. Don’t let them.

When they call you crazy, internalize that as a positive sign you’re being creative and thinking big.

Go out and try to create a human-looking robot. Design a new type of shoe that no one has ever thought of before. Or craft a rare recipe that goes against conventional cooking wisdom.

The world is your oyster to experiment with, as long as you enter the lab and get creative.

16. Life is long, have patience about reaching your goals.

Many young adults want to be a doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, teacher, now! They’re like let’s go already. I certainly felt that way.

The only problem is you’re at least 4 years away from doing what you actually desire to do as those positions require a college degree at least, and many times graduate degrees.

What’s the solution? Patience. It’s not what you want to hear but it’s what you need to hear.

All good things take time to prosper. You need more knowledge, experience, and maturity to navigate successfully in your career. If you started now, you’d fail mightily and be turned off forever from it maybe.

Plus, this build up time is often a lifesaver because it gives you time to find a career more suited for your desires.

I’m the perfect example of that. First dead set on being a corporate lawyer, I jumped the ship to become an entrepreneur. You can imagine how thankful I am for the time that allowed me to make that switch before it was too late.

17. Be grateful for everything you have.

Here’s a cold, hard fact: Your life is pretty great in comparison to many parts of this world.

Your perception will change when you realize millions of people would do anything for their own bed, a warm meal to eat every meal, or the opportunity to go to school.

If you’re like my 18-year-old self, you’re more worried about your social media likes than life’s basic needs.

Please, for the sake of yourself and the people around you, heed my advice to be grateful for everything you have.

Whether it’s in the morning, during the day, or before bed, I encourage you to thank God for a few things you’re grateful for.

This activity will help you stay balanced in today’s society and hold onto a peaceful equilibrium each day.

18. You choose your own happiness.

Happiness is what it’s all about right? Young adults like yourself chase sports, education, success, family, friendships, fame, money, exercising, and all areas of life for the ultimate goal of happiness.

But you don’t need to chase all of that to find what you’re looking for. Here’s the secret: Choose to be happy.

While it’s similar to the previous lesson on gratitude, it’s different in a sense.

It’s scientifically proven that humans can change their attitude to be happy. The sole act of attempting to be happy will help you become more joyful. Isn’t that wild?

Then when you couple this attitude with healthy decisions to surround yourself with people you enjoy, allow yourself to laugh at the odd elements of life, and focus on good things in your day, your life is happy.

This may be the greatest discovery in this list: Happiness is within your grasp at any second you choose.

P.S. The subtle hint behind all of these 18 lessons is to keep your head up. You’re going to turn out just alright. Trust me!

Related: Why You’re More Successful Than You Think 

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Life Tip: Never Take Anything Good For Granted

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Have you ever had something really good in your life, until you took it for granted and lost it? What a horrible, miserable feeling, right? It’s the worst.

I know from experience.

My senior year of basketball still leaves a sour taste in my mouth thinking about it.

It’s strange though because it started out good, like really good.

After thousands of hours of insane dedication to practice my basketball craft and improve my shooting, dribbling, passing, defending, and rebounding, I reached a dream of mine: make the starting lineup for the St. Xavier Bombers varsity basketball team.

Not only that, my first game of the year couldn’t have been better considering I only played 14 minutes the entire game. The stat line below proves it.

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And we won the game by 23 points. Everything is going smooth, until it wasn’t.

From the next game through the last game of the year it was all downhill.

Let me explain.

The Lost & Final Basketball Season

Let’s just say I was a different guy in high school. Now I’m all motivated and focused on building my businesses and leaving a legacy.

But the 18-year-old Brian was all about wreaking havoc and having a good time above all.

To express himself at school or during basketball team activities, he’d go as far as he could to toe the line of breaking the rules for pure laughs and excitement. Often he crossed the line.

Here are some of the reckless things I did during that basketball season:

  • After receiving a hard foul when driving to the basket, I stayed on the ground and racked off 5 push ups before shooting foul shots
  • On the bench during a pre-season game, I grabbed my phone and sent a tweet out to my Twitter followers explaining what I just did (tweeted during the game)
  • Ruined team pictures by putting a 3 goggles sign on my thigh, so the school had to retake them a week later
  • Stormed the refs locker room after a frustrating overtime loss when a bunch of questionable calls went against us
  • Put a teammate in a headlock during a shoot around hours before a game
  • And a lot more crazy stuff

That’s not close to all of the bad-boy moves.

I don’t know if you realize this, but it’s hard to play solid basketball and stay in the coaching staff’s good graces when you’re messing around whenever you can. It doesn’t work out well.

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That’s why it’s to no shock looking back that I got suspended twice. The first time I had to sit out two quarters against our biggest rival. And then I was suspended a full week from the team later in the year.

Not to mention a bunch of other disciplinary issues and conflicts with coaches that I don’t have time nor want to discuss.

It all boils down to the fact that my antics sabotaged my final year of basketball.

After the season ended, the problem was I couldn’t go back in time to stay focused on basketball and give it my 100% again. That ship had sailed. The opportunity was gone.

So I had to, and now have to, live with regret when thinking back to that year and what could have been.

But regret about not appreciating the game of basketball isn’t the only thing I received from that experience. It’s the unforgettable lesson: never take anything good for granted.

Fortunately I learned this lesson at age 18, not 48.

Never Take It For Granted

Thanks to my failure that year, I developed a wiser perspective to appreciate the good things in my life.

So now I know never to take my work, my company, my clients, my health, my friends, my family, and life in general for granted. Regret is the worst feeling out there so I want to live in a way that eliminates it.

Where maybe if my senior year basketball season went smoother I’d never have learned the full extent of that lesson. Who knows? Maybe something far worse than a disappointing basketball season could have went down.

But because of the outcome I get to hold that experience in my back pocket going forward. I turned a scar into an advantage.

Although it’s always cool for me to flip negative experiences into positive ones, it’d be even better if I didn’t have to learn the hard way.

Truth is you don’t have to be a dummy like me.

I don’t know what your “it” is (I can guess it’s your family, friends, faith, career, pets, house, teachers, and country). I do know you need to never take it for granted if you want what’s best out of your life.

Also, don’t forget to appreciate the little things that come and go during the passing days.

It could be your peaceful commute to work where you’re alone with your thoughts. It could be the Monday morning cup of coffee you can afford without thinking about. Or it can be your place’s proximity to the beach that other people would kill to have.

Never taking life’s big and small gifts for granted is a big step to living the good life.

And there’s another reason to have this mindset: you don’t want to mess around with regret.

Regret Is Brutal, Eliminate It

Regret is the worst feeling out there in my opinion.

Sadness sucks but you can become happy again. Anger isn’t fun but you can eventually relax and get over it.

But regret, there’s no way to reverse it and recover. It sticks with you the rest of your life. That’s why it’s brutal.

Your only solution is to do your best job to eliminate it at all times by both being super grateful for what’s good in your life and staying focused to keep it going well.

If you are unappreciative and lose focus, there’s sometimes no going back from there. Your fate is often sealed once the moment ends.

I want my life to be filled with as little regret as possible. That’s part of the ingredients for a great life, in my humble opinion.

Don’t you agree? Please join me in this effort to never take anything good for granted.

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