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200 Things To Do Over The Summer Break

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Only weeks ago you were all excited about finishing final exams and kicking off summer break. But now you’re already bored out of your mind and sick of your parents.

To help you out, I created a list of 200 things to do over the summer break. This list is so long that I had to go to the doctor for arthritis pain just to finish it. Not really, but it is long.

So the next time you’re sitting around in your pajamas at 2pm wondering what you’re going to do today, remember Brian’s list and bookmark it so you can easily find it.

If you’re that guy or girl, make it a mission to do all 200 of these activities this summer.

200 Things To Do This Summer Break

1. Go to a professional baseball game, major or minor league (sometimes minor league is more fun).

Cost: $$

2. Visit the local zoo (I’m a big fan of lions).

Cost: $$

3. Buy an ENO Hammock and nap in the forest or mountains.

Cost: $$$

4. Go cabrewing with your friends.

Cost: $$

5. Float down the lake on a paddle boat.

Cost: $

6. Get crazy and go skinny dipping.

Cost: Free

7. Sip on your favorite cocktail at a rooftop bar.

Cost: $$

8. Play mini-golf like pre-scandal Tiger Woods.

Cost: $$

9. Get soaked in a water park.

Cost: $$$

10. Attend a church festival to gamble, eat funnel cake, and listen to live music.

Cost: $

11. See your favorite band live in concert.

Cost: $$$$

12. Crash a wedding and don’t get caught.

Cost: Free

13. Make it old school with a drive-in movie.

Cost: $

14. Road trip to a neighbor state for a weekend.

Cost: $$$

15. Build a fire and make s’mores.

Cost: $

16. Wake up early and hit up a farmer’s market to sample everything.

Cost: $

17. Let your mind and body relax as you fish.

Cost: $$

18. Camp outside, but don’t forget to bring your bear spray.

Cost: Free

19. Hike a mountain and snap a hot Instagram picture.

Cost: Free

20. Play golf without throwing a club.

Cost: $$$

21. If you don’t fair well with golf clubs, switch them for frisbee golf.

Cost: Free

22. Join a gym so you don’t get fat in college.

Cost: $$

23. Complete a marathon without walking.

Cost: Free or $

24. Be a kid and stomp grapes, some places will let you drink it after.

Cost: $$$

25. Volunteer for community service.

Cost: Free

26. Spend a few hours on Sunday meal prepping for next week to eat for energy.

Cost: Save money compared to eating out

27. Learn how to cook by trying Pinterest and YouTube recipes.

Cost: Save money compared to eating out

28. Draw some art and drink some wine at a place like Cheers To Art.

Cost: $$

29. Risk your life bungee jumping, just kidding it’s safe.

Cost: $$

30. Visit the aquarium (I’m a big fan of sharks, too).

Cost: $$

31. Skydive and take a glorious selfie.

Cost: $$$$

32. Love your muscles by getting a massage.

Cost: $$

33. Clean out your closet and throw away, sell, or reorganize all the stuff.

Cost: Free

34. Donate or sell all the clothes you haven’t worn in a year.

Cost: Make money

35. Get cultured by attending a theatrical play.

Cost: $$

36. Go indoor ice skating with your significant other, but don’t fall.

Cost: $

37. Email an old professor to see how they’re doing.

Cost: Free

38. Bike ride around a major park or city to get a different perspective.

Cost: Free

39. Attend a free music festival.

Cost: Free

40. Try your luck with blackjack, poker, craps, roulette, and slots at the casino.

Cost: Varies

41. Enter a sand volleyball league to have fun or win it.

Cost: $$

42. Learn some history by walking through your city’s museum.

Cost: $

43. Listen to one podcast episode to start your day.

Cost: Free

44. Update your resume after reading The Golden Resume

Cost: $

45. Party on the infield of a NASCAR event.

Cost: $$

46. Start a side business.

Cost: Free

47. Take a summer class to catch up or get ahead of your graduation requirements.

Cost: $$$$

48. Connect with old high school friends.

Cost: Free

49. Swim in a water hole.

Cost: Free

50. Get rid of a bad habit such as saying “like” all the time, biting your nails, or forgetting people’s names right after meeting them.

Cost: Free

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51. Mow lawns to pay for the next school year.

Cost: Make money

52. Write in your journal each day of the summer.

Cost: Free

53. Learn a new language and experiment what you’ve learned in a random, real-life conversation.

Cost: Free

54. Search your family history on Ancestry.com.

Cost: $$$

55. Go thrift shopping like Macklemore.

Cost: $

56. Break a Guinness World Record.

Cost: Free

57. Pinterest DIY arts, crafts, and designs.

Cost: Free or $

58. Grab a random fiction book at the library and get lost in the pages.

Cost: Free

59. Play Grand Theft Auto until you commit enough crimes for your liking.

Cost: $

60. Treat yourself to a pedicure, manicure, or facial.

Cost: $$$

61. Order off Chipotle’s secret menu

Cost: $

62. Test how accurate you are with a day of target shooting.

Cost: $$

63. Go Geocaching, and if you don’t know what it is then learn it and do it.

Cost: Free

64. Invite friends to play the escape a room game.

Cost: $$

65. Rollerblade down a hill as fast as you can.

Cost: Free

66. Check the class registration list to potentially upgrade your fall class schedule.

Cost: Free

67. Get a bird’s view in a helicopter ride.

Cost: $$$$

68. Look out the window on a train ride to a random destination.

Cost: $$

69. Let your adrenaline rise with white water rafting.

Cost: $$$

70. Get a part-time job at a coffee, wine, art, or other shop you love.

Cost: Make money

71. Grab a buddy or three to play singles or doubles tennis.

Cost: Free

72. Master your money and begin the journey to financial freedom with the strategies in Freedom Mindset.

Cost: $

73. Experience your city like never before in a hot air balloon ride.

Cost: $$$$

74. Get 10 strangers numbers who you think are hot.

Cost: Free

75. Hit the slopes to do your best skiing, just don’t tear an ACL.

Cost: $$$

76. Scuba dive and try to touch a fish (it’s nearly impossible).

Cost: $$

77. Join Meetup.com and see what comes of it.

Cost: Free

78. Attend a butterfly exhibit, and try to get one to land on you.

Cost: $$

79. Start at 10 pushups before bed and add one each night.

Cost: Free

80. Drink light and hard beers at a brewery all Saturday.

Cost: $$

81. Unleash the kid in you and hit the arcade.

Cost: $$

82. Star gaze in an observatory.

Cost: $$

83. Watch a Broadway show and take in the talent.

Cost: $$$

84. Create a scavenger hunt for your significant other or best friend.

Cost: $

85. Go off the grid for one day without any electronics.

Cost: Free

86. Watch YouTube tutorials until you learn how to moonwalk.

Cost: Free

87. Go on separate lunch dates with your mom, dad, and siblings—and pay for it.

Cost: $$

88. Pedal wagon around the city while drinking beers.

Cost: $$

89. Go antique shopping for yourself or to sell later on eBay.

Cost: $ or make money

90. Take your dog to a dog park.

Cost: Free

91. Saddle up to go horseback riding into the sunset.

Cost: $$

92. Eat ice cream for dinner, just once.

Cost: $

93. Visit California and see what you think of the west coast lifestyle.

Cost: $$$$

94. Grill out with hotdogs, burgers, and or barbecue (especially for the 4th of July).

Cost: $

95. Limit yourself to eating no sugar for a week.

Cost: Free

96. Bake cookies, brownies, and cake for the fun of it.

Cost: $

97. Run a garage sale where you’re wheeling and dealing.

Cost: Make money

98. Go on a picnic to the park with a basket, blanket, and picnic food.

Cost: $

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99. Do a hot wings challenge at a restaurant.

Cost: $$

100. Paint your furniture a new color to change up your room.

Cost: $

101. Move the furniture in your bedroom.

Cost: Free

102. Visit your grandparents and ask them stories about their life.

Cost: Free

103. Take a nap by the pool.

Cost: Free

104. Make homemade sushi and feel like a champ.

Cost: $

105. People watch at a public place.

Cost: Free

106. Create your own jewelry and sell it online or to your friends.

Cost: Make money

107. Get a credit card that offers you at least 1% cashback.

Cost: Free

108. Buy an expensive camera and take up photography.

Cost: $$$$

109. Dedicate a day to laughing and do everything that gets you to laugh.

Cost: Free

110. Organize an outdoor 5-on-5 basketball game.

Cost: Free

111. Get out of your comfort zone by taking cold showers.

Cost: Free

112. Get your personal training license.

Cost: $$

113. Join a Bible study and grow in your spirituality.

Cost: Free

114. Practice making different cocktails until you get it just right.

Cost: $$

115. Scrapbook college pictures and add them to your life album.

Cost: Free

116. Call into the radio and talk with the host.

Cost: Free

117. Commit to posting to Instagram once a day and build a huge following.

Cost: Free

118. Write a book and self publish it to come back to school and say you became an author over summer.

Cost: $

119. Offer to work for free to learn from a famous company, entrepreneur, or celebrity.

Cost: Free

120. Improve your speech and writing by learning these college vocabulary words.

Cost: Free

121. Knock down as many pins as you can at the bowling alley.

Cost: $$

122. Create a blog and become 100% more marketable.

Cost: $

123. Make a fruit popsicle by freezing fruits together over a wooden stick.

Cost: $

124. Invest in the stock market and be patient.

Cost: Make money (over time)

125. Tour million dollar houses to get a taste of the good life.

Cost: Free

126. Change up your hair color or get a different haircut.

Cost: $$

127. Do a photo shoot like you’re a model.

Cost: Free

128. Master the art of smoothie making to be a hit at home and at school.

Cost: $$

129. Stop pretending you’re not a nerd and join a book club.

Cost: Free

130. Shadow a professional in your future field and ask insightful questions.

Cost: Free

131. Get your real estate license and attempt selling houses.

Cost: $$

132. Study up on nutrition to know all the basics of what food is healthy and unhealthy to consume.

Cost: Free

133. Rent out a cabin for the weekend with your friends.

Cost: $$$

134. Paint a fence with some wax on, wax off techniques.

Cost: $$

135. Tone your abs through healthy eating, abs exercises, and hard cardio.

Cost: Free

136. Start planning how to fund graduate school

Cost: Free

137. Build something in your backyard (a deck, patio, or fire pit).

Cost: $$$$

138. Feed ducks at the park.

Cost: Free

139. Start a YouTube channel talking about something you’re interested in or good at.

Cost: Free

140. Write an opinion article in your local newspaper.

Cost: Free

141. Attend a political rally for Trump, Clinton, or Sanders.

Cost: $

142. Reorganize your iTunes into updated playlists.

Cost: Free

143. Learn how to stand on your head.

Cost: Free

144. Test drive a sports car—I love Tesla’s Model S ludicrous mode.

Cost: Free

145. Black out your car’s windows.

Cost: $$$

146. Drink half your body weight in water ounces each day.

Cost: Free

147. Bartend at nights for the money and stories.

Cost: Make money

148. Test your flexibility in a yoga or hot-yoga course.

Cost: $

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149. Fly a kite with a younger sibling or cousin.

Cost: Free

150. Go treasure hunting in neighborhood yard sales.

Cost: $

151. Try everything on the menu at your favorite restaurant from the beginning to the end of summer.

Cost: $$

152. Do your mall cop impersonation on a downtown Segway tour.

Cost: $$

153. Enter The Color Run 5K

Cost: $$

154. Watch old, classic movies (Godfather, anyone?).

Cost: $

155. Utilize this back to college shopping list to be prepared for next fall.

Cost: $$

156. Learn new skills through free online courses at Khan Academy.

Cost: Free

157. Ride a roller coaster and don’t break up like this couple.

Cost: $$

158. Take pictures of your dog wearing different outfits and props.

Cost: Free

159. Start a band with your bros or girlfriends.

Cost: Free

160. Zip line over a forest, river, or valley.

Cost: $$$

161. Make your own guacamole (it’s one of my favorite appetizers with chips).

Cost: $

162. Go through an old collection of baseball cards, dolls, or Beanie Babies.

Cost: Free

163. Go study abroad and develop your emotional intelligence.

Cost: $$$$

164. Listen to as many Ted Talks as you can find.

Cost: Free

165. Swim with one of nature’s smartest creatures, the dolphin.

Cost: $$$

166. On a rainy day, bring out all the old board games and go to town.

Cost: Free

167. Take an IQ test and see where you stack up compared to society.

Cost: $

168. Think big about how you can change the world.

Cost: Free

169. Rent a jet ski for the day and hit top speed.

Cost: $$$

170. Solve a difficult puzzle whether it be online or a physical puzzle.

Cost: $

171. Get up early enough to watch a sunrise and sunset in the same day.

Cost: Free

172. Have people over for a themed party (Gatsby, gangster, black tie, etc.).

Cost: $$

173. Create a top 10 destination list for yourself.

Cost: Free

174. Work on sitting less and standing more by creating a standing desk.

Cost: $$

175. Reflect on what went well last school year and what went wrong so you can improve.

Cost: Free

176. Jump off a cliff with a rope swing into a lake.

Cost: Free

177. Dress up as fancy as you can and go to a classy restaurant.

Cost: $$$

178. Run a social media campaign for a client.

Cost: Make money

179. Research internet pranks and do them to your friends or family.

Cost: Free

180. Buy and rock a hat when appropriate.

Cost: $$

181. (Guys only) Get your face shaved at a barber shop with a knife blade.

Cost: $

182. Make homemade pizza with natural ingredients.

Cost: $

183. Practice one of the most difficult sports: archery.

Cost: $$

184. Pick berries with your family and make juice, jam, and more out of it.

Cost: Free

185. Sign up for a cooking class.

Cost: $$

186. Practice good interview answers with your friends and family.

Cost: Make money with an amazing job

187. Visit a comedy club for a good laugh and ab work out.

Cost: $$

188. Write a letter to your future self about who you hope you become and what you hope to accomplish.

Cost: Free

189. Wash your car in a bathing suit like you’re in one of those music videos.

Cost: Free

190. Read a book one day and watch the corresponding movie the next day.

Cost: $$

191. Discover what your net worth is and make changes to improve it.

Cost: Free

192. Buy a GoPro and do ridiculous stunts with it on the trampoline.

Cost: $$$$

193. Drive the scenic route to work.

Cost: Free

194. If you’re not happy at work, discover why and what would make you happy.

Cost: Free

195. Hire a virtual assistant at Upwork.com to do your busy work.

Cost: $

196. Visit an abandoned house at night and get creeped out.

Cost: Free

197. Toss a frisbee with your dog.

Cost: Free

198. Attend a rodeo and bull riding event.

Cost: $$

199. Update your Facebook profile picture and cover photo.

Cost: Free

200. Write your own summer to-do list.

Cost: Free

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Life Tip: Never Take Anything Good For Granted

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Have you ever had something really good in your life, until you took it for granted and lost it? What a horrible, miserable feeling, right? It’s the worst.

I know from experience.

My senior year of basketball still leaves a sour taste in my mouth thinking about it.

It’s strange though because it started out good, like really good.

After thousands of hours of insane dedication to practice my basketball craft and improve my shooting, dribbling, passing, defending, and rebounding, I reached a dream of mine: make the starting lineup for the St. Xavier Bombers varsity basketball team.

Not only that, my first game of the year couldn’t have been better considering I only played 14 minutes the entire game. The stat line below proves it.

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And we won the game by 23 points. Everything is going smooth, until it wasn’t.

From the next game through the last game of the year it was all downhill.

Let me explain.

The Lost & Final Basketball Season

Let’s just say I was a different guy in high school. Now I’m all motivated and focused on building my businesses and leaving a legacy.

But the 18-year-old Brian was all about wreaking havoc and having a good time above all.

To express himself at school or during basketball team activities, he’d go as far as he could to toe the line of breaking the rules for pure laughs and excitement. Often he crossed the line.

Here are some of the reckless things I did during that basketball season:

  • After receiving a hard foul when driving to the basket, I stayed on the ground and racked off 5 push ups before shooting foul shots
  • On the bench during a pre-season game, I grabbed my phone and sent a tweet out to my Twitter followers explaining what I just did (tweeted during the game)
  • Ruined team pictures by putting a 3 goggles sign on my thigh, so the school had to retake them a week later
  • Stormed the refs locker room after a frustrating overtime loss when a bunch of questionable calls went against us
  • Put a teammate in a headlock during a shoot around hours before a game
  • And a lot more crazy stuff

That’s not close to all of the bad-boy moves.

I don’t know if you realize this, but it’s hard to play solid basketball and stay in the coaching staff’s good graces when you’re messing around whenever you can. It doesn’t work out well.

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That’s why it’s to no shock looking back that I got suspended twice. The first time I had to sit out two quarters against our biggest rival. And then I was suspended a full week from the team later in the year.

Not to mention a bunch of other disciplinary issues and conflicts with coaches that I don’t have time nor want to discuss.

It all boils down to the fact that my antics sabotaged my final year of basketball.

After the season ended, the problem was I couldn’t go back in time to stay focused on basketball and give it my 100% again. That ship had sailed. The opportunity was gone.

So I had to, and now have to, live with regret when thinking back to that year and what could have been.

But regret about not appreciating the game of basketball isn’t the only thing I received from that experience. It’s the unforgettable lesson: never take anything good for granted.

Fortunately I learned this lesson at age 18, not 48.

Never Take It For Granted

Thanks to my failure that year, I developed a wiser perspective to appreciate the good things in my life.

So now I know never to take my work, my company, my clients, my health, my friends, my family, and life in general for granted. Regret is the worst feeling out there so I want to live in a way that eliminates it.

Where maybe if my senior year basketball season went smoother I’d never have learned the full extent of that lesson. Who knows? Maybe something far worse than a disappointing basketball season could have went down.

But because of the outcome I get to hold that experience in my back pocket going forward. I turned a scar into an advantage.

Although it’s always cool for me to flip negative experiences into positive ones, it’d be even better if I didn’t have to learn the hard way.

Truth is you don’t have to be a dummy like me.

I don’t know what your “it” is (I can guess it’s your family, friends, faith, career, pets, house, teachers, and country). I do know you need to never take it for granted if you want what’s best out of your life.

Also, don’t forget to appreciate the little things that come and go during the passing days.

It could be your peaceful commute to work where you’re alone with your thoughts. It could be the Monday morning cup of coffee you can afford without thinking about. Or it can be your place’s proximity to the beach that other people would kill to have.

Never taking life’s big and small gifts for granted is a big step to living the good life.

And there’s another reason to have this mindset: you don’t want to mess around with regret.

Regret Is Brutal, Eliminate It

Regret is the worst feeling out there in my opinion.

Sadness sucks but you can become happy again. Anger isn’t fun but you can eventually relax and get over it.

But regret, there’s no way to reverse it and recover. It sticks with you the rest of your life. That’s why it’s brutal.

Your only solution is to do your best job to eliminate it at all times by both being super grateful for what’s good in your life and staying focused to keep it going well.

If you are unappreciative and lose focus, there’s sometimes no going back from there. Your fate is often sealed once the moment ends.

I want my life to be filled with as little regret as possible. That’s part of the ingredients for a great life, in my humble opinion.

Don’t you agree? Please join me in this effort to never take anything good for granted.

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Brian, Promise You’ll Never Stop Writing

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Hey guys, to celebrate video number 40 on my YouTube channel I put together a different kind of video.

Here I share a personal story and value I hold dear to my heart. It’s all about my relationship with writing and how it’s went from zero to hero in my life.

I hope you enjoy the video and feel inspired!

If you’re interested, here’s the transcript:

Let’s first take it back to high school. You sucked at writing. Just like all of your other classes, you hated it and let your teachers know by your classroom antics or naps, and doing the bare-minimum on papers.

Writing never interested you because it was a part of the school system you went to war against.

Brian this is a note to your future self.

Things changed your freshman year of college. You wanted to be a big time lawyer, and writing soon became your major since top lawyers know how to read and write well. So you needed to write, and write well, to get a top GPA and reach your dreams. And you did.

But things changed again. You said see ya to law school, hello entrepreneur land and started the blog takeyoursuccess.com. That meant constant writing, and hours of it to publish 2-3 posts a week for the past few years. And then you became an author from your writing, already accomplishing a major achievement on your bucket list through this method of communication.

Now writing is your daily routine as much as breathing and eating is. Writing is your public and personal journal, the world sees it but you know the heart of what’s behind the words and the words unsaid. Writing is magical to you.

Although you’re a business owner, author, and coach, at the end of the day, remember your journey all started from a blog, from writing. You’re a writer, writing your story as you go, figuring it out piece by piece, and telling the world, striving to create your legacy one word at a time.

So note to future self, never stop writing. You wouldn’t be the same without it. And all great stories have a storyteller. You happen to be your own storyteller, just how you like it.

What’s your story?

What do you want to tell your future self to commit to?

What’s magical to you?

I hope by hearing part of my story you find clarity in your story. Because we’re all in this thing called life together, so let’s make the most of it.

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The Art Of Negotiation: Care Less

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The art of negotiation is truly an art. Either you’re skilled enough to win, or you’ll stumble to the finish line as a loser. Those are the only two possible outcomes.

Depending on the deal, the difference in winning and losing could mean securing your dream job or entering unemployment, getting a deal or getting ripped off $10 grand, and building a million dollar business or going bankrupt.

But like many things in life—how to write a winning resume, who to marry, how to make money, how to invest—no one teaches negotiation.

Our parents: only if we’re lucky. The school system: fails at this. The government: nope.

If government and corporations had it their way, we’d never learn to negotiate so we would have to take the short stick without complaining. That’s just wrong.

Since you’re reading this article, you’re on the right path though. Because the first step is to want to know how to negotiate better.

The second step is to learn how…

“He Who Cares Less, Wins”

Emotions can often be helpful.

For example, you should feel love toward the person you’re about to marry before you go through with it. Duh!

Or you should feel sad when your parents are getting old and sick. That sadness can help you appreciate them better and prioritize quality time going forward.

But in the negotiation arena, emotions will kill you before you know it. It’ll be like a sniper with his finger on the trigger and a red dot on your chest—it’s already too late for you.

Why do emotions kill negotiation ability? It’s mainly because feelings cloud judgement.

Your brain focuses on how it’s feeling instead of reason, logic, and answering does the math work for you to go forward. Insecurities also come into play, which can make you do the opposite of what you intended.

Clouded judgement leads to rash decisions and often buyer’s remorse.

It also costs you real dollars.

This study found anxious negotiators were more likely to take deals 12% less financially attractive than their counterparts. If it’s a 12% loss off a $500,000 mortgage, we’re talking about $60,000. That’s a big deal!

But consider someone’s approach who couldn’t care less about winning the deal: They’re relaxed. They speak clearly and listen carefully. And they’re focused on the specific details of what they’re getting and giving.

Not to mention they hold the leverage because they don’t need the deal. If it helps them they’ll take it, but by no means are they getting on their hands and knees to beg for it like a dog.

It’s not hard to figure out that someone who is relaxed and focused performs better than someone who is scatterbrained and under pressure.

This explains precisely why caring less helps you win.

Plus, when you care less, you can’t lose. You either win the deal on your terms or you leave it on the table as a draw.

Caring less is precisely how you ensure you never make a bad deal that takes the shirt off your back. Those deals are the unrecoverable ones that will leave you unable to sleep at night.

Let’s check out how caring less comes to play out in day-to-day scenarios.

Real Life Negotiations

Negotiation happens everywhere, all the time.

You probably just miss it or don’t label them as deal-making.

To open your eyes and get a grip on how this goes down, read these four examples about how negotiating the right way changes the entire landscape.

1. Grad school admissions: Whether a grad school accepts you and how much money they give you comes down to 100% negotiation.

The university is negotiating to get the best students in their class (and fill the seats to make money). You’re negotiating to get into the school and make the best choice for yourself.

If you’re a top candidate with acceptances to all the elite schools, the game is on to negotiate the best offer package. You’ll want to negotiate for a fat scholarship, maybe a stipend, and see if you can get anything else (like a teaching assistant job) to entice you to come.

If you have average grades and admissions test scores, you’re playing a game of negotiating to get into better schools with no scholarship or less reputable ones with scholarship money. Use the acceptances into the better schools as leverage to get more money.

2. Buying a car: This is the classic negotiation scenario used from personal finance bloggers to authors. (Maybe because just about everyone buys a car and has room to negotiate.)

If you’re like most people, you’ll arrive at the lot and make a beeline to the car you want. Then tell the salesman, “I’ve always wanted this car. It’s perfect. How much is it?”

Their signals are telling them you’re an easy sale and to negotiate little. You cost yourself potentially thousands of dollars.

But say you come back another day after reading this article and bring a more tactical approach. Instead of making a straight shot to one car, you tell the salesman, “I don’t have any particular car in mind. I’m not sure I really need a car to be honest. Just had some free time and wanted to look around.”

You ask about a few car prices then “randomly” stumble on the one you actually want to ask the price, without being too excited (care less).

This is how the playing field gets tilted. The salesman is now the desperate one trying to both find you the right car and sell it to you.

And when you negotiate, you have to make an offer and be prepared to walk away with nothing (that’s a draw not a loss). There are plenty of stories where someone walks and the dealer calls them back the next day to drop the price to get the deal done.

This scenario works when buying a house, motorcycle, boat, and all other related-purchases.

3. Job offer and salary package: I feel strongly about this one. You have to negotiate your salary if you like yourself!

There’s free money on the other side if you do this well. That’s why I dedicated an entire section of my money book to salary negotiation, and have written about this multiple times on TYS. (See here and here.)

Let’s break it down (assuming you’ve been offered the job): The company is negotiating to get you on their team at a fair (or cheap) price, and you’re negotiating to get the job at a higher price.

Communicating you have other employment options and while you’d love to work here you know you may have to decline the deal, can often make the employer want you more. Odds are they fork over the extra money and hope you pan off as a long-term investment.

But if you don’t know how to negotiate and say, “I accept this,” the second after they tell you the salary offer, there’s no extra money for you. The reason you have less money is all your fault.

4. Business projects: Business comes down to negotiation across the board. If you’re an employee, freelancer, or small business owner, you need to know how to persuade the other side to get the deal and price you want.

Bad business negotiation means being in a place of desperation where you take contracts even if it’s 10%, 25%, or 50% your normal rate. The desperation will come through in your communication and be the reason you get taken advantage of in broad daylight.

A smart employee should recognize your company’s price is your price, and not care if you lose the deal because the person on the other side only values cheap labor, and not high quality work.

A freelancer should know the value in their work, price it accordingly, and have a take it or leave it mentality with clients. There’s always more work to be won instead of compromising your skill for cheap labor.

A business owner should double their rates to bring in more revenue (assuming they have a solid product, sales, and marketing), while not caring if they lose their smaller clients. That’s the quickest way to bring in more money, and it sure beats getting nickel and dimed on project rates.

Final Words

Everything is negotiable.

Knowing that, it’s your job to care less by having more options on the other side in case you don’t get what you want.

How do you get more options? The single best way is to work hard and provide value so you become financially well off.

Poor people are often in desperate, emergency-like situations where they can’t afford to shop around for a smart transaction. Where the rich have more time and opportunities to ensure they win the negotiation.

With wealth also comes the freedom to need less and become beholden to no one. This self-reliance empowers you at the negotiation table to only make deals if the numbers make sense to you.

You’re in a position of power when you’re finances are taken care of regardless what happens in these daily negotiations.

As you keep living, keep your eye out for negotiations big and small. Seeing them go down will give you mental reps and prepare you for your day-to-day negotiations.

Caring less about what you want, ironically gives you a better chance of getting it.

Related: Everything Is Negotiable

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